White Elephant Gift Exchange Rules

Simple white elephant gift exchange rules: drawing numbers, opening and stealing, the freeze rule, plus fun variations and a budget tip.

Basic rules

  1. Everyone brings one wrapped gift within the agreed price limit and puts it in the pile.
  2. Players draw numbers for turn order.
  3. Player 1 opens a gift from the pile.
  4. Each next player either opens a new gift or steals an opened gift from someone. A player who loses a gift picks again (open a new one or steal a different one).
  5. The game ends when every gift is opened.

Common house rules

Agree on the house rules before the first gift is opened.

Faster variations

For big groups, try a dice game (roll to open, swap or pass) or a left-right story where everyone passes gifts as the words come up.

Set the price limit

Pick a limit everyone can afford. If gifts are part of your holiday budget, the free gift budget per person calculator helps.

Print the rules and games: White Elephant Gift Exchange Games has host rules, house-rule cards, a dice game and left-right stories ($4 PDF). It is also in the Holiday Party Games Bundle.

Questions

What is the difference between white elephant and Secret Santa?

In Secret Santa each person buys for one assigned person in secret. In white elephant gifts go into a pile and players open or steal them in turn.

How many times can a gift be stolen?

Your group decides. Many groups freeze a gift after 2 or 3 steals.